Before You Throw Black Women Away, STOP . . .

In the early 2020s, a trend called "Passport Bros" rapidly gained traction across social media platforms. You might be wondering, what exactly is Passport Bros? And why has it become so widely recognized? Essentially, the Passport Bro Movement emerged as a way to inspire and advocate for men traveling abroad in search of a better, and more importantly, a wife. As Nikolas Lanum explains, "The viral movement, referred to as 'passport bros' on TikTok, involves men pursuing foreign women whom they believe come from more traditional backgrounds and thus prioritize family and loyalty" (The viral movement, referred to as "passport bros" on TikTok, involves men pursuing foreign women whom they believe come from more traditional backgrounds and thus prioritize family and loyalty). While some men do venture overseas in pursuit of improved job opportunities, a more economical lifestyle, and new adventures, let's be honest, the majority are truly seeking love.

On The Outside Looking In

As a black man, I find this topic quite intriguing! Why is that? Even though I possess a passport and have traveled abroad, I have absolutely no desire to join the ranks of the "Passport Bros." Yet, as I reflect on the current dating landscape, I can't help but ponder how this new trend will influence the younger generation of men. Will they also choose to become Passport Bros? Will they be led to believe that the ultimate way to discover love is by boarding a plane and crossing an ocean? The answer remains uncertain. However, one thing I am certain of is that the dating environment has significantly deteriorated over the last few years; marriage rates are falling, more men are remaining single, and today's relationships often seem to prioritize transactional benefits over genuine companionship, family, and connection.

As someone who has had the honor of loving a woman—whether through dating, marriage, or friendship—I would strongly encourage young men not to abandon their quest for a partner if that is their wish. If a young man aspires to have a family, he should actively pursue that goal. Rather than giving up or seeking love overseas, I would suggest that a man be wise, strategic, and clear about what he desires and what it takes for a woman to fulfill that role for him. Traveling abroad won't resolve anything. In the article, Lanum also mentions, "For men who fail to understand and adapt, these passport bros, Whiteside predicted, might be quickly dissatisfied once again and find themselves in another country back at square one."

A Good Woman Is A Good Woman, Period

If there's one message I want to share with young black men regarding black women, it's this: they are not worse off than women of other races. That's right! A woman from an Asian, Hispanic, Caucasian, or Indian background may have (or seem to have) different values and customs that could make marriage appear appealing, but at the core, women are still women. Ultimately, all women seek the same essentials: love, protection, a provider, reassurance, affection, excitement, security, and so on. The issue isn't about what women desire; rather, it's that many women today hold unrealistic expectations and can be quite superficial, as they often have no intention of offering anything of genuine value in return to a man.

A woman can betray your trust, cheat, lie, break your heart, disappoint you, or show disrespect, regardless of her origin—be it state, city, or country. Never assume that traveling to a specific part of the world will guarantee you the type of wife you desire. Even if it somehow does, remember - you will still need to provide her with the same things that a Western woman would expect because, in the end, all women yearn for the same things.

Slow Your Roll

So, what am I trying to say? Am I saying that being a “Passport Bro” is a bad thing? No. But I do think it is unhealthy and counterproductive to be a passport bro if you fail to work on yourself, vet women correctly, and more importantly, remember that women are women! So, before you go dismissing black women entirely and decide to lump them all into one group simply because you prefer another ethnicity, keep in mind that women are always going to be women. Don't disregard black women just because you believe that dating overseas is a better option. Furthermore, don't limit your opportunities to date women of different races out of fear of facing ridicule, hatred, or insults from those who disapprove. If you want to date someone outside of your norm, go for it! Just because you were brought up by a black woman or have black sisters doesn't matter. Ignore anyone who brings that up, as people often do. Besides, some men may not have had the greatest experiences during their childhood, so using family members as a means to justify who a man should be dating just doesn’t make sense. Simply seek out someone who appreciates and respects you! That’s it.

Skin color does NOT matter. However, if you choose to date outside your race, ensure that it's not out of disdain for black women. I’m not telling you to stick to black women only; I’m also not suggesting another ethnic group is better. I am simply telling you to approach ALL women with caution. The woman you least expect might be the biggest threat!

In Conclusion

The issue isn't with black women; the challenge we face today arises from societal expectations, cultural influences, and social media. If you genuinely want to be with a black woman, go for it! Just be cautious, be wise, take your time, learn from past experiences, and have fun.