Do Successful Women Intimidate Men?
I frequently hear women say that the men they encounter do not pursue them and often back out for one significant reason - intimidation. Women believe that men are intimidated by their achievements, accolades, educational qualifications, impressive job titles, and income. But is this accurate? Are men really intimidated by a woman’s success? My response is, "Yes and No." It depends on the kind of man you are dealing with. Let’s explore this further.
Yes and . . .
To start, let’s examine the men who feel nervous, lack confidence, and behave poorly around attractive and accomplished women. These are men who don’t take their lives seriously, rely on women for their survival, lack ambition, feel the need to insult or degrade women who do not want him, and have no clear goals. Such men often feel intimidated by women regardless of her success. I want to emphasize the term "women."
It doesn’t matter if these women are thriving in their careers or simply lounging in bed all day. Men who realize they aren’t making the necessary progress in life will consistently hesitate to pursue a successful woman. Even if he does end up with a woman who is making significant strides in her life, he will likely question why she chose him in the first place and may show signs of insecurity and low self-worth. This kind of man will usually turn out to be possessive, obsessive, and even abusive. Why is that? It’s because, despite his shortcomings as a man, he understands that women and society still expect men to take the lead. Deep down, he may feel that she is only with him because he was an easy target for some reason, and he will often feel inferior around men he perceives as more successful than himself. He knows that deep down she deserves and is better than he which correlates to the idea that she can’t possibly love, like, or admire him as a man. This is a recipe for disaster! But what about the other men?
No
However, not all men fit this stereotype! There are men like me who take care of their own expenses, can cook and clean, maintain a lovely home, and manage their lives without feeling intimidated by successful women. In fact, we genuinely couldn't care less. Why is that? The answer is quite straightforward - our attraction to a woman isn't determined by her possessions, achievements, or her job title. It’s not that we disregard or overlook her successes; it’s simply that they don’t draw us to her. When I meet a woman, my interest is sparked by what I observe about her physically, first. Afterwards, I feel compelled to get closer based on the emotions she evokes in me. First, the attraction must be there and then if she is a decent person, I continue pursuing. Initially, I have no clue about her profession - and honestly, it doesn’t matter to me at that moment. I could care less. I’m just captivated by a beautiful woman whom I wish to see more frequently. If the connection goes well, great! If we don’t connect well or if she happens to already be in a relationship, it’s okay. No big deal! You can’t win them all. Besides, I’m comforted by the fact that I always have a lovely home and a fulfilling life to return to. Simple as that! Better luck next time.
When it comes to successful women, it’s not the accomplishments to run men off, it’s the interaction. Often, I've observed that women who are considered "educated" or "accomplished" often display poor attitudes, are confrontational, and prefer to argue over trivial matters instead of engaging in a relaxed, meaningful conversation. It’s almost as it they feel the need to make it known how smart they are. Men truly don’t care. Sure, it might bring us joy, provide us with something to boast about to our friends, and make us feel proud of her. However, we don't really care if a woman is so skilled and educated that she can perform open-heart surgery with a plastic butter knife and a scalpel. We don't care if a woman excels in mathematics to the point where she can do taxes in her sleep.
What men who are equally accomplished, independent, and self-sufficient genuinely care about is whether that woman is a valuable addition to our lives or if she is draining our time, money, and energy. Successful and masculine men often share a common trait; we were not brought up to rely on a woman. In contrast, women, once they start earning money, often become self-centered, view marriage and companionship as pointless, and feel the need to boast about their strength and independence - men do not behave this way. When men start earning money, establishing themselves, achieving success, and feeling a sense of accomplishment, they typically see marriage and parenthood as the next logical step. Why? Because they recognize that they will be expected to provide, protect, and lead.
In Conclusion
Therefore, no! Men (real men, at least) are NOT intimidated by a woman's success. We appreciate it, but it doesn't dictate our choice in partners. We weren't raised to expect financial support from a woman, so why would we feel intimidated or concerned about it?
